Jay Leno Stays by Her Side — Even When She Forgets Him

President Ronald Reagan and Nancy Reagan with Jay Leno and Mavis Leno, 1987. Photo courtesy of Reagan White House Photographs. Public domain.
Jay Leno isn't just the funny guy behind a desk anymore — he's now the full-time caregiver to his wife, Mavis, who sometimes doesn't even know who he is. The former "Tonight Show" host just revealed the grueling, personal reality of his wife's dementia — and how he's navigating their marriage as memory loss takes over. He cooks. He bathes her. He carries her to the bathroom. And he says he wouldn't change a thing.
Devastating Diagnosis
Mavis Leno, 78, was diagnosed with advanced dementia in 2024. Since then, Jay, 74, has taken on a new role most fans never imagined for the once-unstoppable comedian — conservator, nurse, and devoted husband. He opened up about the couple's new life together in an emotional April 2025 interview on "In Depth with Graham Bensinger," describing it as challenging, intimate, and, at times, surprisingly funny, according to The New York Post.
"When you get married, you sort of take a vow: 'Will I live up to this? Or will I be like a sleazy guy if something happens to my wife, I'm out banging the cashier at the mini-mart?'... No, I didn't. I enjoy the time with my wife. I go home, I cook dinner for her, watch TV and it's okay," Jay said.
A Long Marriage, A New Mission
Jay and Mavis Leno married in 1980 after meeting in the 1970s at the Comedy Store in Los Angeles. They have remained together for 45 years, often avoiding the spotlight.
In 2024, Mavis was officially diagnosed with dementia, and Jay petitioned the court for legal conservatorship over her estate.
Court documents revealed that Mavis had been progressively losing her ability to recognize people, including her husband, and was increasingly disoriented in terms of time and place. The court approved the request, with Mavis herself expressing support for the decision, according to statements presented by her attorney, Robert Ostrin, NBC News reported.
From Late-Night Legend to 24/7 Caregiver
In his interview with Bensinger, Jay described the dramatic shift in their home life. Once filled with punchlines and movie nights, their evenings now include feeding Mavis, dressing her, and managing her hygiene. He emphasized that while it's difficult, he still finds joy in the companionship and routine.
He pointed out that their days are not drastically different from before — except now he has to handle most physical and memory-related tasks. He noted that Mavis was always independent, and now that she relies on him, he appreciates being needed more than ever.
Humor, Memory Cards, and Love in the Details
Despite the seriousness of Mavis's condition, Jay said they try to find humor where they can. He often uses flashcards with famous faces to help spark her memory. When shown a photo of Barack Obama, Mavis once insisted she had never met him, to which Jay reminded her they had dined with the former president.
He also shared that they watch old clips of his "Headlines" segment from "The Tonight Show" on YouTube. He said, "She forgets that she just saw it, so she laughs again at the same jokes. So for a comedian, that's great," according to The New York Post.
Public Support and Legal Endorsements
During the conservatorship hearing in Los Angeles County Superior Court, Mavis's attorney confirmed she was in full agreement with the arrangement. He noted that she was receiving excellent care from her husband.
Ostrin also said that based on his interactions with Jay and research into his personal life, the former talk show host appeared to be just as sincere and attentive off-camera as he was on it. The judge overseeing the case agreed, stating, "I think she's in the least restrictive environment. I think she's in very good care with Mr. Leno," as reported by The New York Post.
Still Going Out, Still Staying In
The couple made a rare public appearance in April 2024 at the premiere of Netflix's® "Unfrosted" at the Egyptian Theatre in Hollywood. It was a reminder that while Mavis's health is in decline, the pair is still holding on to shared experiences — just as they did during Jay's decades at NBC.
Jay explained that while their dynamic has changed, their rituals remain largely the same. They still sit together to watch television, but now he offers extra context for the stories and movies, repeating plotlines and names as needed.
A Relationship Rewritten
Jay made it clear that this chapter in their marriage isn't glamorous, but it's meaningful. He reflected on how their relationship has evolved. For years, their bond was built on shared interests and humor. Now, it's built on caregiving, patience, and presence.
He said he's never had to face a major life challenge until now — no military service, no personal health crises — and that this is his moment to live out the vows he made decades ago. He's not walking away, not handing it off, and certainly not replacing her with someone new.
He added that Mavis is not in pain, and for that, he's grateful. Even if she doesn't always know where she is — or even who he is — he still wants to be by her side.
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