Robert Downey Jr.'s Wife Gives Him an Ultimatum

Robert Downey Jr., 2001. Photo courtesy of the California Department of Corrections. Public domain.
Robert Downey Jr. is one of Hollywood's greatest comeback stories, but before his triumphant return, he hit rock bottom. His struggles with drug addiction, repeated arrests, and time in prison nearly ended his career. From carrying a .357 Magnum in his truck to wandering into a stranger's home and passing out in their child's bed, his descent into addiction was as dramatic as any movie he starred in. Here's a look at the shocking moments that led to his downfall and eventual redemption.
The Arrest That Made Headlines
In the summer of 1996, Robert Downey Jr., then a rising star, was pulled over for speeding in Malibu. Police found heroin, cocaine, and crack in his car — along with an unloaded .357 Magnum. Downey posted bail, but three weeks later, he broke into his neighbor's home and passed out in an 11-year-old's bed.
It was clear that he was spiraling, and the court ordered him to a drug detox center. Just four days into the program, Downey escaped. By July 1996, he was in court again, appearing exhausted as a judge ordered him into rehab once more.
A Danger to Himself and the Community
Despite multiple attempts at court-mandated rehab, Downey couldn't stay clean. His frequent relapses landed him in court repeatedly, where prosecutors labeled him a danger to himself and the community. His father, director Robert Downey Sr., told PEOPLE simply, "I'm glad he's alive."
In 1999, after repeatedly violating his probation by missing drug tests, Downey was sentenced to three years in California's Substance Abuse Treatment Facility and State Prison. While serving time, he found himself in one of the most dangerous prison environments, describing the atmosphere as full of threats. He was eventually released after one year but was arrested again in 2001 for appearing under the influence in Culver City.
The Breaking Point
Following his 2001 arrest, Downey's career took a nosedive. He was fired from his role on the television show "Ally McBeal," and no studio was willing to take a chance on him.
But this time, something changed. With the support of his future wife, Susan, who gave him an "ultimatum," he finally committed to sobriety in 2003. "I think he saw what we had ... There was something magical there, something we couldn't put our finger on," Susan reflected, in a 2009 interview with Vanity Fair.
Downey reportedly credits a mix of therapy, 12-step programs, yoga, and even throwing his drugs into the ocean once as what ultimately helped him get clean.
Redemption and a Hollywood Comeback
Hollywood had all but written him off — until one friend refused to give up on him. Mel Gibson reportedly paid Downey's insurance bond so he could return to acting in "The Singing Detective." From there, Downey slowly rebuilt his career, starring in "Kiss Kiss Bang Bang," "Zodiac," and "Tropic Thunder." His true return to superstardom came in 2008 when he was cast as Tony Stark in "Iron Man." The role made him one of the most bankable actors in the world.
A Legacy of Resilience
Robert Downey Jr.'s journey from addiction and arrests to becoming a Hollywood icon is nothing short of extraordinary. His story is a testament to second chances and the power of perseverance. While his past remains a cautionary tale, his present serves as an inspiration to those battling addiction.
References: Hitting Bottom | Robert Downey Jr. on Year in Prison | Robert Downey Jr.'s Comeback From Addiction | Susan Downey: Iron Woman